Embrace Your Natural Wiring for a Happier, More Authentic Life

Serious question: have you ever met a “normal” person?

Art by the author. (No, it doesn’t make sense. That’s why I like it.)

Have you ever wished you were normal?

I’m sure that most of us, at some point in our lives, has failed to live up to that mythical golden yardstick of “normal.” If you’ve wondered what it’s like to be normal often enough, for long enough, you might have noticed something.

No, seriously. I’m asking because I am starting to wonder if that archetypal, gold-standard ideal human we’re all supposed to be even exists in reality.

And if normal isn’t real, why are we all being held to this standard? Who is holding us to this standard, anyway?

More importantly, if it does exist, perhaps we should define what normal actually means before we start beating ourselves up for not fitting into this particular pigeonhole.

Maybe this is the answer? Abnormal is the only normal.

Everyone has probably felt at some point in their life that they’re not good enough. They’re too loud or too quiet. Too shy or too extroverted.

Too tall, too short. Too fat, too thin.

Too [insert variable], too [insert variable].


There are an infinite number of ways that we can be labeled, all of which shape us to be someone who doesn’t quite fit into society’s ideal mold.

But seriously, who is the ideal normal person we’re all somehow trying to become?

I’m pretty sure that person doesn’t exist.

Today I realized it’s okay to be exactly who I am.

More than realized it, I felt it.

Being okay with who you are is powerful.

In fact, that’s the ideal state of being.

The best version of you is the exact version of you that you already are.

If you don’t believe me, watch this TED Talk by Emilie Wapnick.

(Really, the whole point of this article was to share this TED Talk.
Go watch it. Then come back and tell me how you feel.)

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